Attachment therapy for adults

You may notice yourself repeating patterns in relationships even when you understand, logically, that you want something different.

Maybe you become anxious when someone feels distant, have difficulty trusting that people will stay, or find yourself working hard to keep others happy. Or perhaps closeness feels uncomfortable—you value your independence, struggle to express what you need, or find yourself pulling away when relationships become more vulnerable.

These patterns aren't random.

The ways we learned to experience closeness, safety, emotions, and relationships often have roots in experiences that came long before our current relationships.

Attachment therapy can help you understand those roots—not so that you can stay focused on the past, but so that you can have more choice in how you relate in the present.

You may notice that you…

  • Become anxious when someone seems distant or less available

  • Worry that people you love will leave or lose interest

  • Need reassurance to feel secure in relationships

  • Overthink changes in someone's mood, tone, or behavior

  • Put other people's needs ahead of your own

  • Have difficulty setting boundaries or saying no

  • Feel responsible for other people's emotions

  • Struggle to express what you need

  • Pull away or shut down when emotions become intense

  • Feel uncomfortable depending on other people

  • Want connection but feel overwhelmed when someone gets too close

  • Question whether you're “too much” or not enough

  • Notice the same relationship patterns repeating even when you want something different

You may recognize yourself in some of these experiences and not others.

HOW I CAN HELP…

My approach to attachment therapy is relational, trauma-informed, and focused on more than simply understanding your patterns intellectually. I utilize approaches that help increase nervous system regulation and expose you to new ways of relating to others.

Depending on your experiences and goals, our work may incorporate EMDR, Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy, parts work, somatic approaches, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Therapy may help you:

  • Recognize attachment patterns as they're happening

  • Understand the experiences underneath them

  • Develop greater emotional awareness and nervous system regulation

  • Communicate needs more directly & set boundaries without overwhelming guilt

  • Feel safer with vulnerability and closeness

  • Build greater trust in yourself

  • Develop more secure and connected relationships

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    I provide therapy for adults throughout Washington and California

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